Siblings and Giftedness. Part II

Hello All,

I have to say once the school is sorted out and your kid is happy you feel like you have overcome a major milestone. But for most gifted parents sometimes we worry about the other kids in the house. In my case they are 4 years apart and so different. I feel like I am parenting all over again.  My daughter who is 5 is completely opposite my son. Sometimes I feel did I give birth to both of them.  I have not had her tested but plan to do that soon.  I don't want her to ever question me how come I was not tested. Always the challenge of bringing up 2 kids when one is profoundly gifted.  Fill your kids lives with praises. I make sure my entire focus is not on my son I give enough time to my daughter too. She is eager to learn and loves going to school. In just 3 weeks of Kindergarten she has learnt to read, write and recite poems. Her learning style is very different from my son. So as a parent of a gifted kid don't ever look for similar signs. And please please don't beat yourself  up trying to figure out why both your kids are so different.  Nourish each of them and let them be who they are born to be.
Some of you may ask why get the other sibling tested if you don't see similar signs. Well research says if one child is gifted the other one might be too. Giftedness comes in many ways. Also for your child to never feel that my parent did not get me tested because they just did not even think I was good enough. So regardless of what their test scores are it's best to get them tested. Gifted or not gifted they both will come with a lot of challenges in life. Gifted kids tend to be more sensitive and need a lot of emotional back up and always teach them to create a thick skin they need. They will encounter so many kids who will be jealous of them or be intimidated by them. Never let that come in their way.
Also with siblings I have noticed my little one always saying what about me?? I always always make it a point to praise her when her brother comes and tells me hey mom look I got a 100 or anything else that he is so happy about. I make sure to find a painting, or anything she has created or said that day and praise her. We love our kids dearly and they are both precious to us. My daughter is extremely street smart. I enjoy every moment with her. Thank God both my kids are different it just makes life more interesting and fun. As my son says "Mom as long as we have Anvi in the house we will never be short of entertainment" She makes us laugh so much we don't need anything else.

Author: KG